So when your Narcissist is interpreting his environment, he is interpreting it through those filters.
When you do something and he reacts in a rage, it’s because that neural pathway that leads to anger is well traveled and he is constantly interpreting other people’s intentions as negative and threatening to his sense of self.
After several years of writing Baggage Reclaim and being asked numerous times “Are they emotionally unavailable?
”, I’ve put together a list of the most common unavailable relationships , as I’ve realised that pretty much everything I’ve heard falls into eleven types of relationship.
When you enter into a relationship with married men, inevitably you step into a world that can reveal a lot of joy, and yet, tear all the happiness away instantly.
And this cycle of happiness and pain repeats itself until you can’t take it anymore.
I have received a few variations of the same question from readers, “Are Narcissists really aware of their behavior considering they have a personality disorder? ”Most people don’t put too much thought into their everyday behaviors. You usually don’t stop and think about what you’re doing, or why you’re doing it. Our behavior is generally driven by an accumulation of our emotional state at the time, our self-esteem and our past experiences.
As I illustrated in my blog Seeking Revenge Against a Narcissist, their general default setting consists of emotions such as, anger, smugness, frustration, boredom, obsession and contempt.
He’s not thinking that he’s over reacted or acted badly, he’s just looking at how your behavior was offensive to him. The need to alleviate these anxieties is what drives much of his behavior.This may seem a little extreme, but our ethos is, …if I can make the effort, then so can you…Virgo men will initiate the majority of the conversation if there are awkward silences, but we’ll gladly ask your opinion on things and give you the opportunity to have your say. Do not overtake the entire evening with vacuous conversations such as who is now dating Kim Kardashian, or if we knew Cameron Diaz had really bad skin.Boomerang Relationships – Can’t break, won’t break, your ex keeps leaving and returning, and you keep taking them back.Or, you keep chasing them down and waiting around, sometimes even being disruptive in their current relationship. Rebound Relationships – Caught between two relationships, this is basically not over an ex or the pain from a breakup, or the hurts from the fallout.